Signs Of Cheating

Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who might be interested. But please don't change anything.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a "glow" about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed.

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

45) He tells you that you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

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Self Confidence Can Be Trained

"I get so nervous every time she talks to me."

"I like her but I get tongue tied every time I see her."

"I wish I was like him, he is so cool and knows just what to say around girls."

I'm very sure that by the time you are into your teens, you've heard variations of the above lines.

You would also have observed that the brain of some guys just stop functioning when they are within 100m of the girl that they adore. Other guys just breeze through their interaction with girls; so that brings us to this question… can we learn to flirt or is it a talent that you are born with and can never be learnt?

Let's side track a bit to the subject of public speaking and performing on stage. It is said that those who sing and speak very well are gifted. It is a talent that not many of us are born with. While it is true that there are people who are very talented and gifted, the rest of us who are not blessed with the gift can do equally well if we are trained to.

Of late many parents send their toddlers for public speaking and drama classes at a young age. And by the time they start formal schooling, they can speak confidently in public and perform on stage minus the stage fright. This goes to prove that with the right training, we can excel in a certain task.

The primary reasons I feel that many guys fail when it comes to flirting and chatting up the girls that they are attracted to is the fear of the unknown and lack of confidence. They don't know how the girls would react to them. They have no confidence that it would be a positive reaction. Therefore they hesitate and pass out the opportunity to get to know the girl they like.

If you are one of those guys who get tongue tied around women, there's hope yet. You can train yourself to be the cool guy that has a lot of fun talking to women.

Here are some tips on how you can get rid of the jitters:

1. Make it a point to smile and acknowledge girls that you meet on your way to work or in your office every day. It would be great if you'd greet them with a simple hi or good morning. Breaking the ice especially with a stranger helps you get over the initial nervousness. Do this often enough and it becomes a habit and soon, you won't even feel nervous anymore.
2. Volunteer to be in the organizing committee for any event that your company is hosting as that would put you into contact with ladies from different departments. The aim here is to help you to be more comfortable in the presence of women.
3. Visualize yourself talking to the girl that you fancy. Visualization helps because when the interaction actually takes place, it is something that is already familiar to you and it helps to get rid of the nervousness.
4. Do not put the girl that you are interested in on the pedestal. Do not idolize her. When you do that you create unrealistic expectations, thus making her out of reach when in fact she's just like any other ordinary girl that you know.

If you have not come to this realization yet, you have been interacting with women since the day that you were born. You grew up with at least one woman in your life; i.e. your mother. Some have sisters, aunts, grand mothers living under the same roof.

Therefore technically, you should not be nervous when talking to women. Just think of it as if you are talking to your mum or sister. Practice, practice and more practice till it becomes your second nature.

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Signs of Attraction

Being able to tell when a woman is interested in you is an important skill to have if you want to save yourself the trouble trying to go after girls that simply wish you would leave them alone.

The ability to read body language can be extremely beneficial; in fact I'd almost say it's essential if you want to be successful in life, whether that is with women or in your career or just with your mates.

To truly know and understand someone's body language, it can be very helpful to know your subject, as some body language can be confused with "comfort".

Reading body language can also be very beneficial for reducing anxiety around women. If you know what she is feeling, then you know what to expect and where to go next, Instead of trying to second guess from just her verbal language.

We all know that women are great at saying one thing, but often meaning another. So if you can master the skill of body language, then you can be one step ahead. And place yourself at ease.

Eye Contact
Ok, so you're out at a club, there is a hot little number just a table or two away from you. She looks over and makes eye contact with you. Does this eye contact last a little longer then as it would with someone you merely glance across at, let's say in a shopping mall?

Does she go back for round two? Make eye contact with you again? Holding it a little longer again? Yes?

Now unless you look like a complete idiot or your friends have managed to draw on your face: she is attracted to you! Now it's time for the next step (approach her).

Her Posture
I have to admit I do watch for this one a fair bit in others. Its interesting watching this happen in complete strangers you don't know. We're all guilty of it, what's funny though, is since I know this is something that we all do from time to time, I'll even consciously realize it, yet can't stop myself from doing it.

Here is an example:

Say you're strolling down the heart of the city, with little concern for your posture, your shoulders are relaxed, head semi downwards and you are just in your own little world getting on with your day.

Suddenly a sexy girl is walking your way, what do you do? You probably stand up straight, push your chest out and try to look your best as the girl passes, right?

Both women and men use this attraction signal, usually done subconsciously.

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When To Buy Gift For Woman

Recently received a question that bears discussion:
"What types of presents should be given at the beginning of a relationship that the man hopes to be a serious, lasting love? (and what not to give!)"

Generally speaking, a man should not give ANY gifts for the first few two or three dates. Most guys tend toward "buy her affections" behavior, where they try to lock women into an implied commitment by buying gifts for her far too soon. What this really does is scare women off.

Instead, a guy should save his money to demonstrate that he's FUN, and then show her a good time. An example might be to get a few rolls of quarters and take her to the arcade. Or buy her a really nice pastry that you can both savor together.

Gifts early on should be geared toward enhancing the experience of your time together, not to impress a woman. Hold off on the flowers and the candy until you've built up some genuine rapport and interest from her, then your gifts will be appreciated.

After three dates or so, the guy can then open up a little and maybe get her a card or some flowers. But the idea here, again, is to keep it LOW KEY. It's better to under-gift at this point so that he can show thoughtful caution rather than hasty imprudence.

Remember: It's not the money you spend, but the message you send.

This reader also asked:
"What types of presents he should give to show its just a short-term, sexy affair, a fling that will go no further? (and what not to give!)"

For a sexy affair, give sexy gifts! Small things like a coupon to fulfill her fantasy, or take her to a lingerie store to buy a really hot nightie.

How about a couple of tickets to a steamy movie?

Do NOT give expensive gifts as they imply a level of commitment that neither party may be willing to make. No jewelry or big-ticket items. Keep it tasteful, not trashy.
"What types of presents to give to a girl as a sign that now the man is starting to think more seriously about the relationship, and wants to show that he hopes it will last?"

When it comes time for an anniversary or some kind of major event, such as Valentine's Day, or a birthday, you're pretty much obligated to step up and produce something memorable. I once gave a girl a naked Barbie doll with a coupon in the box that said I'd buy her (and Barbie) some clothes, as long as I got to help pick them out. That went over BIG with her.

Another possibility for a good "relationship" gift is something that links you two together. No, not handcuffs, or matching T-shirts. I'm talking about something that will keep reminding her of you when you're not around, such as a nice pair of wine glasses from your trip to visit some vineyards, or make her a CD with a bunch of your favorite songs. Get her a gift that does double-duty.
"What signs should a man look out for to know what present to give?

How do you interpret her signals?"

A man should show some insight and intelligence in his choice for a gift. He should look at the woman's interests and get her something that stands out. If she's into adventure sports, get her a day pass at a rock climbing gym. If she likes music, get her a ticket to a concert.

Take a few minutes to think it through and you'll come up with dozens of good ideas.

The idea here is to be IRREGULAR with the timing, and understand the need for some variation in the way you gift. It's less about the "what" than it is about the "when" and "how." Small gifts every so often are much more effective than the large ones. Save the large gifts for the big events.

He should also watch out for signals that indicate the woman is a little TOO into getting gifts. If she drops any overt hints about wanting material gratification, he should run to the nearest exit.
"Is there a time when you really shouldn't give a gift?"

Don't give gifts solely to smooth over an error on your part, such as insulting her and expecting to get in her good graces again just by sending her candy. You have to show her some genuine remorse with the gift so that it doesn't come across as just an empty gesture.

Be wary of being the only one in the relationship buying gifts. She should buy things for you occasionally, too - IF she's really into you. Demonstrate that you can provide, but let her demonstrate she can nurture you back.

Another time you shouldn't buy her a gift is to prompt her for sexual favors in return. It sets up a bad precedent for you, and it cheapens her.

The best rule for gifts is that they should always be given with NO expectation of return. Give just for the pleasure of giving and you'll rarely go wrong.

Remember that when you've got your self-confidence established, you don't have to worry as much about when and how to give gifts, because there won't be any subtext of neediness on your part.

That just means that when you have the right Alpha Male vibe to you, a woman is not going to misinterpret the meaning of your gift. She'll understand that it's something she should cherish and not take for granted.

On the other hand, if you're giving to GET, you're going to have problems. Women will not want to be with you because you're setting up an agenda, and that's the most unattractive thing a woman can sense from you.

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Long Distance Dating

You are surprised and excited at the same time. After spending months on an internet-dating website, you met some amazing people, along with a few that you were not too sure about. After talking to a few select people that were a little more special than others were, you finally met someone special – someone you really want to meet – someone with potential.

You both felt the attraction almost immediately. The conversations were interesting and always filled with surprises. It was as though every time you missed chatting for one day, you felt something missing. This was the time when you realized that this was not just any ordinary meeting but one destined for success.

Everything about this situation is perfect – almost. The only problem is that the person you have fallen in like with lives 500 miles from where you live. The drive is too far, the airline flight too expensive, and now the two of you are trying to figure out what to do. After all, this person is the one that has captured your heart – the person you want to meet and have been longing to get to know.

If this sounds all too familiar, you are certainly not alone. When it comes to online dating, this one scenario plays out time after time. Therefore, you need to be realistic about what your budget will support. That does not mean you should limit your possibilities of meeting someone living elsewhere, just that there could be more obstacles to cross if you do.

If this individual is truly someone that special, then try to make a minimum of one in-person trip, and more if possible, Additionally, it is important that you commit yourselves to daily phone conversations. With so many long-distance options today, you can buy a plan for only $39.95 a month for all the calling within the US you want.

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How to Ask Someone Out: Get the Timing Right

When dating successfully, getting your timing right is one of the single most important factors. Timing in respect to the best time to ask a girl out, with respect to what night to ask her out first and even with respect to when in your lives you actually meet at all.

Looking back on my life so far I realize that when relationships didn't work out, it wasn't because the girls I dated were wrong for me. Most often it was because we simply met at the wrong time in our lives. To meet a great girl who wants to get married to you when you are aged 22 may just be wrong timing. Meeting a fantastic lady when you are working abroad or on a short contract in a different location may be bad timing and meeting someone who wants children when you are not yet ready is again bad timing. It cannot be helped and often it is a sad truth in life. The people we would have matured with best are often the ones we encountered just at the wrong moment in time. One cannot go back and one cannot rekindle something lost in time, so we have to accept that bad timing does happen with all of us.

The next time we face timing issues is when asking a girl out at just the wrong moment. We are attracted to someone and take the initiative or opportunity, only to discover that she got married three weeks earlier, or that she has just broken up with someone and is not yet ready for a new relationship. Maybe there has been a family crisis and the girl you are interested in is not predisposed for a romantic encounter. Three times in my life I have met great girls just as they (or I) were relocating to a new city! On top of this if you add illness and many other factors, there are plenty of opportunities for getting your timing wrong and invariably this is not your fault. Just a fact of life.

If someone accepts your proposal of a date then you can control the timing somewhat better. Your basic instinct is to go for a weekend because you won't need to go to work the following day and so can stay out later. Often there are more social events to go to at a weekend and more restaurants open and with better atmosphere. Clubs, bars and discos are all far more attractive at a weekend and offer many more possibilities of dating. Yet this may be a good example of bad timing.

When dating you may want to think about the attractiveness of a week night which can work to your benefit. Weekends are often the only real free time people have got and many now plan their weekends well in advance. I do not like being diarized but again it is a fact of life in the early stages of dating. However a week next Saturday for a date takes away some of the glamour I admit. Weekdays are fairly dull affairs in comparison and many are taken up with hobbies or simply commuting. They are also far less formal than a weekend and a first date on a weeknight can be seen as far more relaxed and informal.

Also, week nights are not late night affairs and an unsuccessful date can be gently brought to an end. So dinner after work may be a good thing after all. Also bear in mind that week nights can be dull and so a sparkling evening with you will do you and them no harm at all. In fact you are not competing with some other glamorous event the girl could have attended instead of being with you, so you are far less likely to face that troublesome contrast. Dating midweek also opens up the possibilities of more dates in a shorter amount of time and successful dates can quickly become longer prolonged weekend dates shortly afterwards.

You can do a great deal to help yourself with disappointment when a girl says no to you. Be flexible in your arrangements. Always offer a girl a choice of dates and locations and understand when she has reasons for doing other things. All too often when someone says no you automatically assume you are being given an excuse and that the truth lies elsewhere. You assume too much. Let her know that you are interested in her and that when things are better for her in her diary , that you can make some arrangements. Always stress that you are busy too and this will add to your overall appeal. Remember that you too must never be too available otherwise it comes across that you are uninteresting, or even worse, desperate. We have all heard the fabled excuse "I can't, I'm washing my hair tonight." That could be true.

On the other hand, lame excuses are just that, lame. They are mean to warn you off and persistence may be a good trait but it doesn't often win the girl. Interest factor is at play there and when a woman makes to many lame excuses it shows her interest factor is low. If she was very interested, believe me she will move heaven and earth to meet you. Therefore it is essential that you get your timing right and ask a girl out when there is the greatest chance she will say yes. That does not mean you should prey on her when she is at her lowest ebb. When a girl says no and means it, you will know it. Coming on to her after that and you become a menace so simply move in. It is a numbers game my friend.

If you are in a nightclub, timing again plays its part. Asking a girl to dance when she has just met up with a huge group of friends will receive a negative response even if she likes the look of you. On the other hand, intercepting her at the bar whilst her friend is in the bathroom may well prove perfect. Try reading the signals of the situation in a positive way. Asking a girl to dance at 1am as the club is about to play the last song will usually get you nowhere unless both she and you are desperate. And what basis is that or successful dating?

So, whilst being flexible and semi available, know your subject in advance and work out when she is most likely to be available if possible. If your timing is right, you could easily get lots of positive responses that will lead on to something more special. Not taking timing into account can have the opposite and most disheartening effect.

* Understand when a woman has good reason to say no
* Be flexible and offer an alternative when asking - are you free Thursday or Friday?
* Don't fight her excuses if she says no -move on
* Always sound busy yourself
* Accept that some people you will meet at the wrong time
* Choose a weeknight for the first date
* Chhose the right moment to apprach a date in a bar of nightclub
* Never be scared of asking. The more you ask the more confident you will be
* Try not to ask her out in the middle of a big group, choose your moment carefully for maximum effect
* Don't get annoyed if she says no. Smile!
* Try and know as much about your date's circumstances in advance only if she is known to you already
* Work out the best moments to ask someone out
* Don't ask her out when she is clearly busy or stressed or unhappy or not well

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Importance of Meeting Women

I want to talk to you about the importance of meeting women.

Seriously.

There are a lot of people out there who see my site and think:

"I only want DATING ADVICE, I don't care about knowing how to meet women."

Sometimes, I just shake my head at this.

See, most guys just don't realize that the most important part of DATING is being able to MEET the kind of woman you want to date!

If you aren't able to meet a woman, you'll NEVER be able to date her!

DUH!

So if you're neglecting your ability to:

* Overcome Approach Anxiety
* Approach Groups Of Women
* Meet Women In Any Location
* Come In Under Her Radar

You are SERIOUSLY at a disadvantage in your love life!
How to Meet Women

Here's what the average guys thinks about meeting women:

"I'll just wait for her to be alone, then walk up and compliment her on her shoes, or something, and then buy her a drink. Then, I'll see if I can get her number."

That's a train wreck waiting to happen.

Let me break this down for you...

1) Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone!

This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren't up.

If you wait until she's by herself to meet her, you're walking into a situation where she's going to be WAY more defensive than usual.

2) If you open her with some dumb compliment, she's going to know you're hitting on her.

Why?

BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT EVERY OTHER GUY DOES!

If you want to meet a woman, you need to be different, and not come across as some lamer.

3). Buying a woman a drink is like pick-up suicide!

Women will plug you for free drinks all night long, and never talk to you again.

The purpose of approaching women is to transition into a DATE.

If you do the "May I buy you a drink" line, you might as well just say "Hey ladies, I'm a walking ATM for tonight!"

4). Going for the number is always a bad idea!

You should be going for RAPPORT.

You should be going for CONNECTIONS.

If you can get those, she'll actually OFFER you her number!

And when that happens, a next meeting is actually going to happen!

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Common Signs Your Partner May Be Cheating On You

An unfaithful husband, cheating wife, any kind of disloyal partner, is an ugly prospect. And that feeling of being betrayed by someone we thought we could trust more than anyone else is one of the worst.

People who discover their partners have been unfaithful to them go through a hurricane of different emotions – anger, sadness, shame, dejection, sometimes even relief. It’s a grieving process, not of a person that’s died, but of a relationship and level of trust that’s instantly disintegrated.

In short, it sucks.

But before you can begin “grieve” that loss of trust, or simply throw caution to the wind and ditch your partner for good, you need to make absolutely sure your reaction will be 100% warranted. You need to know without doubt whether your lover has, in fact, double-crossed you by looking for, finding, and partaking in, an affair.

The only guaranteed way of knowing this, aside from finding damning physical evidence or seeing the affair with your own eyes (both pretty rare), is by hearing a confession straight from the horse’s mouth, by communicating your suspicions with your partner and listening to what they have to say – however heartbreaking or relieving their response might be.

But before you take that big step, there are a few simpler and smaller steps you can take to make the whole process, the whole “investigation” and confrontation of your partner, easier and more factually accurate.

The first thing you should do is look for some of the most common signs/groups of signs people produce when they cheat. I’ve listed 3 of them below. Read over and think about each and carefully consider if they apply to you, your partner and your relationship.

1. Changes In Sex Drive And Sexual Behaviour

Sex is almost always an integral part of a happy and healthy relationship between two people. So when one of the two, regardless of whether it’s the guy or the girl, begins to cheat, it doesn’t come as any surprise that changes in the way they feel about having sex with their partner can be brought about.

There are two main ways these changes can manifest themselves. When the cheater initially begins their affair, they may – out of guilt and in an effort to avoid the newly formed affair being rumbled – actually increase the amount of attention they pay their real partners in bed. Conversely, and usually a little while after the affair has begun, the cheater may appear to have a loss of sex drive.

They, for some reason, seem to not want to be intimate with you as much as they used to. Once again, this can be attributed to guilt, but more often it’s to do with a fear they’ll reveal their infidelity through they way they behave before, during and after having sex with you.

2. Peculiar Changes In Habits & Schedule

When people cheat, they invariably change their behaviour and/or habits in some way, small or large. The reason they cannot avoid these alterations is because, no matter how infrequently or secretly they see the person they’re having an affair with, they MUST – at some point or another – go out of their way to do so (and thereby break or change habits and behaviour).

So, look for recent and pronounced modifications in the times they come home/leave the house (and whether the changed times ‘repeat’ weekly), increased usage of the phone or computer for no obvious/innocent reason, and other differences in the way your partner acts and behaves.

You know your partner’s old habits and ways of living better than anyone, so draw from that knowledge to compare how they might have changed them and to decide if the changes are to be taken as possible indications of betrayal.

3. Miscellaneous Indicators Of Infidelity

Lastly, there’s the group of infidelity indicators that don’t fit in any other box or under any other title. They’re the things you notice, question and cannot innocently explain away.

They’re the things you spot but almost choose to forget because you’re so unsure of what they may or may not mean and whether, ultimately, they are true signs that your partner is cheating on you with someone else.

Here are just a couple of miscellaneous indications of infidelity:

A. Your partner no longer seems to get angry with you when in the past they always seemed to be picking a fight or getting worked up over any tiny issue. Cheaters often ‘let their partners off’ because they want as little confrontation (which could lead to a discovery on your part) as possible.

B. She or he frequently shifts the focus onto you. Cheaters often asks their partners more questions about how their day went, how they’re feeling, etc, again, to shift the attention away from them and their guilt.

Remember, when you suspect your partner may be cheating, always take the smaller steps – by looking for the kinds of subtle signs listed above – before taking the biggest step of all: confronting them.

Doing so will give you the very best chance of a happy, or at least a more manageable, final outcome.

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How to Attract a Man you have crush on easily

Does it seem as if your dating life has been put on standstill? Do you feel like you will never be able to find someone who is not a losing proposition? Believe it or not, you can learn how to attract a guy who is not a dud! And the secrets are not terribly difficult to follow. Here, we’ll give you clever ways on how to attract a male who does not leave you snoozing.

Step One: Bag the Bars!

First of all, if you want to know how to attract a guy who actually has something between his ears, it is time to ditch the bar scene. While that is a fine recipe for flings and hook-ups, it is certainly not the best way to find a lifelong partner. Instead, hang out in more professional places such as libraries, museums and theatres. Better yet, join an organization you support - animal rights, helping the destitute, et cetera. The guys you meet there will be sure to have something in common with you.

Health clubs are swarming with eligible bachelors! All you have to do is take a few classes and show up on a regular basis and you’ll start to see some beautiful “fish” amidst a sea of dumbbells and treadmills. One note, though - you’ll want to make sure that you know how to attract a male who is not just concern about his own body (but will concern about yours, too!) So avoid the dudes who stare only at their own reflections; they will not be a good match.

Step Three: Get a Referral!

There is nothing wrong with telling your friends you are, single available and on the prowl! Sure, they might set you up with some losers, but who knows, you might just wind up meeting a gem of a guy. This method of how to attract a male has worked for millennia and can be used no matter what your age or social status.

Step Four: Put Your Best Foot Forward!

No more going to the grocery store in sweatpants, missy! It is time to knock a few men’s socks off. If you are serious about learning how to attract a guy, you have to realize that no one is going to look twice at you if you don’t wear the appropriate clothes. There’s no need to don your prom dress or evening wear, of course, but you should pay attention to the signals you are sending. Nice jeans and a form-fitting top complete with a neat hairdo and some natural make-up say, “I’m classy, and if you are the right man, I might consider dating you!”

Step Five: Believe in Yourself!

Finally, the best lesson you can learn on how to attract a man is to simply BE YOURSELF. Don’t fool yourself into believing that you have to be someone else. Know your capabilities and strengths and allow your unique, beautiful personality to shine. Guys are attracted to women with confidence, poise and self-esteem, so don’t shortchange yourself.

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Safe Dating Tips for Single Women and Men

You know, online dating on the web is generally extremely safe, especially friendly and great fun and Top Dating Tips.com is committed to ensuring that it stays that way. It is safe dating because it is distance dating - simple. You do not come into contact with others initially and this may well provide you with a comfort factor that also allows you to pace yourself and be rightly choosey.

If possible though, you should try and follow a few basic online safe dating principles before deciding to pass over personal contact information to a relative stranger or arrange to meet them. It's all too easy to get a little carried away when viewing personal ads so take things slowly and take a rain check every now and again. The tips here are from LoveBrowser.com. They may appear obvious to you but we think that if you do try and follow them, it can only assist you in ensuring you have happy online dating experiences. And you never know, Mr. or Miss Right may be just round the corner. We really hope so.

* Always trust your instinct, after all it has got you this far in life already.
* Take your time and view plenty of personal ads first.
* Do not publish your phone number or email address in personal ads.
* Don't take everything at face value.
* Do ask lots of questions when chatting.
* Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whoever you are chatting with.
* If someone is abusive to you, block them straight away.
* Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met.
* Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much as possible

Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything, whatsoever! You are the one in charge.

Also consider the following:

* Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed
* A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet
* Make sure you see plenty of photos if possible of the person you make friends with
* Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail box before hand if possible
* Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date, get to know each other
* Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient to you
* Always tell a good friend where you are going, and who you are meeting
* If possible phone your friend during the date to confirm all is fine

And perhaps consider these points too:

* Always carry a cellular phone on a date if you have one
* Lunchtimes are good for dating, convenient, and they have a time limit
* Always make your own travel arrangements on a date initially
* Do not accept a lift home on the first date or reveal your address
* If travelling far, organize your own accommodation and confirm it
* Ensure you have as much information about your date as possible
* Keep your first date to a time limit so that you have an "exit" point
* Don't feel you owe it to someone to meet them, you do not!

When we think of safe dating by sets of rules like this it can all get pretty silly and scary but the fact is that we are introducing ourselves to strangers without the company of friends. It will always be a wise choice to have a friend close by even if they are sitting at a nearby table. But whatever you decide is best for you, keep your wits about you and enjoy your date !!

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