Signs Of Cheating

Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who might be interested. But please don't change anything.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a "glow" about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed.

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

45) He tells you that you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

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Self Confidence Can Be Trained

"I get so nervous every time she talks to me."

"I like her but I get tongue tied every time I see her."

"I wish I was like him, he is so cool and knows just what to say around girls."

I'm very sure that by the time you are into your teens, you've heard variations of the above lines.

You would also have observed that the brain of some guys just stop functioning when they are within 100m of the girl that they adore. Other guys just breeze through their interaction with girls; so that brings us to this question… can we learn to flirt or is it a talent that you are born with and can never be learnt?

Let's side track a bit to the subject of public speaking and performing on stage. It is said that those who sing and speak very well are gifted. It is a talent that not many of us are born with. While it is true that there are people who are very talented and gifted, the rest of us who are not blessed with the gift can do equally well if we are trained to.

Of late many parents send their toddlers for public speaking and drama classes at a young age. And by the time they start formal schooling, they can speak confidently in public and perform on stage minus the stage fright. This goes to prove that with the right training, we can excel in a certain task.

The primary reasons I feel that many guys fail when it comes to flirting and chatting up the girls that they are attracted to is the fear of the unknown and lack of confidence. They don't know how the girls would react to them. They have no confidence that it would be a positive reaction. Therefore they hesitate and pass out the opportunity to get to know the girl they like.

If you are one of those guys who get tongue tied around women, there's hope yet. You can train yourself to be the cool guy that has a lot of fun talking to women.

Here are some tips on how you can get rid of the jitters:

1. Make it a point to smile and acknowledge girls that you meet on your way to work or in your office every day. It would be great if you'd greet them with a simple hi or good morning. Breaking the ice especially with a stranger helps you get over the initial nervousness. Do this often enough and it becomes a habit and soon, you won't even feel nervous anymore.
2. Volunteer to be in the organizing committee for any event that your company is hosting as that would put you into contact with ladies from different departments. The aim here is to help you to be more comfortable in the presence of women.
3. Visualize yourself talking to the girl that you fancy. Visualization helps because when the interaction actually takes place, it is something that is already familiar to you and it helps to get rid of the nervousness.
4. Do not put the girl that you are interested in on the pedestal. Do not idolize her. When you do that you create unrealistic expectations, thus making her out of reach when in fact she's just like any other ordinary girl that you know.

If you have not come to this realization yet, you have been interacting with women since the day that you were born. You grew up with at least one woman in your life; i.e. your mother. Some have sisters, aunts, grand mothers living under the same roof.

Therefore technically, you should not be nervous when talking to women. Just think of it as if you are talking to your mum or sister. Practice, practice and more practice till it becomes your second nature.

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Signs of Attraction

Being able to tell when a woman is interested in you is an important skill to have if you want to save yourself the trouble trying to go after girls that simply wish you would leave them alone.

The ability to read body language can be extremely beneficial; in fact I'd almost say it's essential if you want to be successful in life, whether that is with women or in your career or just with your mates.

To truly know and understand someone's body language, it can be very helpful to know your subject, as some body language can be confused with "comfort".

Reading body language can also be very beneficial for reducing anxiety around women. If you know what she is feeling, then you know what to expect and where to go next, Instead of trying to second guess from just her verbal language.

We all know that women are great at saying one thing, but often meaning another. So if you can master the skill of body language, then you can be one step ahead. And place yourself at ease.

Eye Contact
Ok, so you're out at a club, there is a hot little number just a table or two away from you. She looks over and makes eye contact with you. Does this eye contact last a little longer then as it would with someone you merely glance across at, let's say in a shopping mall?

Does she go back for round two? Make eye contact with you again? Holding it a little longer again? Yes?

Now unless you look like a complete idiot or your friends have managed to draw on your face: she is attracted to you! Now it's time for the next step (approach her).

Her Posture
I have to admit I do watch for this one a fair bit in others. Its interesting watching this happen in complete strangers you don't know. We're all guilty of it, what's funny though, is since I know this is something that we all do from time to time, I'll even consciously realize it, yet can't stop myself from doing it.

Here is an example:

Say you're strolling down the heart of the city, with little concern for your posture, your shoulders are relaxed, head semi downwards and you are just in your own little world getting on with your day.

Suddenly a sexy girl is walking your way, what do you do? You probably stand up straight, push your chest out and try to look your best as the girl passes, right?

Both women and men use this attraction signal, usually done subconsciously.

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When To Buy Gift For Woman

Recently received a question that bears discussion:
"What types of presents should be given at the beginning of a relationship that the man hopes to be a serious, lasting love? (and what not to give!)"

Generally speaking, a man should not give ANY gifts for the first few two or three dates. Most guys tend toward "buy her affections" behavior, where they try to lock women into an implied commitment by buying gifts for her far too soon. What this really does is scare women off.

Instead, a guy should save his money to demonstrate that he's FUN, and then show her a good time. An example might be to get a few rolls of quarters and take her to the arcade. Or buy her a really nice pastry that you can both savor together.

Gifts early on should be geared toward enhancing the experience of your time together, not to impress a woman. Hold off on the flowers and the candy until you've built up some genuine rapport and interest from her, then your gifts will be appreciated.

After three dates or so, the guy can then open up a little and maybe get her a card or some flowers. But the idea here, again, is to keep it LOW KEY. It's better to under-gift at this point so that he can show thoughtful caution rather than hasty imprudence.

Remember: It's not the money you spend, but the message you send.

This reader also asked:
"What types of presents he should give to show its just a short-term, sexy affair, a fling that will go no further? (and what not to give!)"

For a sexy affair, give sexy gifts! Small things like a coupon to fulfill her fantasy, or take her to a lingerie store to buy a really hot nightie.

How about a couple of tickets to a steamy movie?

Do NOT give expensive gifts as they imply a level of commitment that neither party may be willing to make. No jewelry or big-ticket items. Keep it tasteful, not trashy.
"What types of presents to give to a girl as a sign that now the man is starting to think more seriously about the relationship, and wants to show that he hopes it will last?"

When it comes time for an anniversary or some kind of major event, such as Valentine's Day, or a birthday, you're pretty much obligated to step up and produce something memorable. I once gave a girl a naked Barbie doll with a coupon in the box that said I'd buy her (and Barbie) some clothes, as long as I got to help pick them out. That went over BIG with her.

Another possibility for a good "relationship" gift is something that links you two together. No, not handcuffs, or matching T-shirts. I'm talking about something that will keep reminding her of you when you're not around, such as a nice pair of wine glasses from your trip to visit some vineyards, or make her a CD with a bunch of your favorite songs. Get her a gift that does double-duty.
"What signs should a man look out for to know what present to give?

How do you interpret her signals?"

A man should show some insight and intelligence in his choice for a gift. He should look at the woman's interests and get her something that stands out. If she's into adventure sports, get her a day pass at a rock climbing gym. If she likes music, get her a ticket to a concert.

Take a few minutes to think it through and you'll come up with dozens of good ideas.

The idea here is to be IRREGULAR with the timing, and understand the need for some variation in the way you gift. It's less about the "what" than it is about the "when" and "how." Small gifts every so often are much more effective than the large ones. Save the large gifts for the big events.

He should also watch out for signals that indicate the woman is a little TOO into getting gifts. If she drops any overt hints about wanting material gratification, he should run to the nearest exit.
"Is there a time when you really shouldn't give a gift?"

Don't give gifts solely to smooth over an error on your part, such as insulting her and expecting to get in her good graces again just by sending her candy. You have to show her some genuine remorse with the gift so that it doesn't come across as just an empty gesture.

Be wary of being the only one in the relationship buying gifts. She should buy things for you occasionally, too - IF she's really into you. Demonstrate that you can provide, but let her demonstrate she can nurture you back.

Another time you shouldn't buy her a gift is to prompt her for sexual favors in return. It sets up a bad precedent for you, and it cheapens her.

The best rule for gifts is that they should always be given with NO expectation of return. Give just for the pleasure of giving and you'll rarely go wrong.

Remember that when you've got your self-confidence established, you don't have to worry as much about when and how to give gifts, because there won't be any subtext of neediness on your part.

That just means that when you have the right Alpha Male vibe to you, a woman is not going to misinterpret the meaning of your gift. She'll understand that it's something she should cherish and not take for granted.

On the other hand, if you're giving to GET, you're going to have problems. Women will not want to be with you because you're setting up an agenda, and that's the most unattractive thing a woman can sense from you.

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Long Distance Dating

You are surprised and excited at the same time. After spending months on an internet-dating website, you met some amazing people, along with a few that you were not too sure about. After talking to a few select people that were a little more special than others were, you finally met someone special – someone you really want to meet – someone with potential.

You both felt the attraction almost immediately. The conversations were interesting and always filled with surprises. It was as though every time you missed chatting for one day, you felt something missing. This was the time when you realized that this was not just any ordinary meeting but one destined for success.

Everything about this situation is perfect – almost. The only problem is that the person you have fallen in like with lives 500 miles from where you live. The drive is too far, the airline flight too expensive, and now the two of you are trying to figure out what to do. After all, this person is the one that has captured your heart – the person you want to meet and have been longing to get to know.

If this sounds all too familiar, you are certainly not alone. When it comes to online dating, this one scenario plays out time after time. Therefore, you need to be realistic about what your budget will support. That does not mean you should limit your possibilities of meeting someone living elsewhere, just that there could be more obstacles to cross if you do.

If this individual is truly someone that special, then try to make a minimum of one in-person trip, and more if possible, Additionally, it is important that you commit yourselves to daily phone conversations. With so many long-distance options today, you can buy a plan for only $39.95 a month for all the calling within the US you want.

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